Real Life Alcoholism Facts

Alcoholism creates unique stories in our lives. The facts of what we endure are different yet somehow the same. The alcohol related facts in my life are too many to count. I've been addicted to the substance and sober for many years. My mother was trapped in the disease and got sober through the AA program. My ex-wife has a horrible addiction to prescription pills and alcohol. One of my dearest friends took his own life one night while in an overly intoxicated state.

Since you are reading this right now, I can imagine that you understand the facts all to well. You may be depressed, frustrated and feel as though there is no hope due to someone else's drinking problem. Perhaps you feel the guilt and the shame that accompany being involved with an alcoholic. No doubt, you know what it's like to feel as though you are walking on egg-sells when you are around them. Keep reading. There is a way to better this situation you are dealing with.

When I was in my teens, my mom was a binge drinker. I never wanted to go home. I never wanted to have friends over. I was constantly looking for where she was hiding the alcohol. I would argue with her and beg her to please stop drinking. The nights and days are too many to remember when I would lock myself in my room because I hated being around her when she was drunk. Those are a few of the alcoholism facts pertaining to that dysfunctional relationship.

When I was married to my now ex-wife, there were so many nights that she didn't come home until the early morning hours. The bars would close at two in the morning and I always anticipated she would be home after they closed. Some nights she never came home. Prior to getting involved in support group meetings, for friends and family members of alcoholics, I would stay awake until she came home. The arguments seemed to never end because I was trying so hard to control the uncontrollable.

That's another one of the facts about alcoholism, it cannot be controlled. I finally learned how to let go of her dysfunctional behavior through attending many Al-anon meetings. Since those first few difficult months, I have now attended well over two thousand support group meetings. I've helped thousands of people learn how to cope with an addict over the past thirteen years.

The fact of the matter is this, alcoholics are in love with drinking. They have a physical addiction to alcohol and their brain will not let them rest until they get a drink. They hurt themselves and the people who love them so much because of this constant obsession to get more.

Take these facts to heart:

• No one when they where a child ever wanted to be an alcoholic when they grew up.



• An addict must hit bottom on their own before the cry out for help.



• While they are caught in their addiction, the best thing that you or I can do is love them without conditions. This is not possible without learning how to love them in the midst of all the dysfunctional behavior.

I want you to know that there are methods of dealing with alcoholics that work. There are proven ways of reducing the anxiety, pain, frustration, fear and hopelessness that accompany the lives of people dealing with alcoholism. Your situation with alcoholism can change. You just need to learn proven methods that work for dealing with dysfunctional relationships.

You can learn how to live a life filled with peace, serenity and joy, even if they are still drinking or not. I can say this with great confidence because the facts of my recovery are that I went from being depressed to happy. I was transformed from having a constant obsession with the alcoholic's behaviors to being able to let go of them. The fighting and arguing ended when I learned how to stop it. The nights I used to spend awake because my ex-wife was out drinking at bars were changed to peaceful rest.

Perhaps these were not the alcoholism facts you were looking for. In any event, these facts are truth in my life: I was once addicted to alcohol and now I am not. I was once addicted to an alcoholic and now I am not. My life used to be miserable and now I am happy.

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